What I wish I knew before moving abroad: Lessons from real expats

Relocating to a new country is often painted as an exciting adventure—and it is. But behind the Instagrammable moments and fresh starts are the quiet, honest challenges that few talk about.

After sharing What no one tells you about relocating abroad, we asked expats what they really wish they’d known before the move. Their answers were heartfelt, relatable, and packed with wisdom that every future expat should hear.

1. You’ll grieve your old life—and that’s okay

Moving abroad means saying goodbye—not just to a place, but to routines, support systems, and a version of yourself. Many expats experience an unexpected wave of grief after the initial excitement fades. This is totally normal. Give yourself permission to feel homesick, nostalgic, and even a little lost. It’s all part of building a new life.

2. The ‘bureaucracy fog’ is inevitable

Even the most well-prepared relocator hits a wall of red tape. A missing signature. A form in a language you don’t speak. A process that takes weeks longer than expected. It’s frustrating, but not personal. The best strategy? Stay calm, stay organized, and build a buffer into your timeline. You’ll get through it.

3. Making friends takes time—and that’s not a failure

One of the loneliest surprises is how long it can take to feel truly connected in your new home. Locals often already have established social circles, and expat communities can be transient. But friendships do happen—with patience, persistence, and a little vulnerability. Try language exchanges, coworking spaces, hobby groups, or expat meetups. And don’t be afraid to make the first move.

4. You’ll relearn life’s basics

Simple tasks suddenly become complex. Grocery shopping in an unfamiliar language. Using a new public transport app. Sorting out recycling properly. These things will confuse and frustrate you—then become second nature. Everyone goes through this phase, and you’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed by what used to be easy.

5. You’ll grow in ways you never expected

Perhaps the most beautiful truth: relocating will challenge you, stretch you, and ultimately change you. You’ll develop problem-solving skills, cultural sensitivity, independence, and an appreciation for differences. The struggles won’t vanish, but your confidence will grow. One day, you’ll look back and realize just how far you’ve come.

Final Thoughts

Relocating abroad is messy and magical. It’s filled with awkward starts, brave decisions, and quiet victories. If you’re planning your move, don’t go it alone. Our Expat Starter Kits are designed to give you the tools, checklists, and insider tips that make the process smoother—and a lot less lonely.

Explore our Expat Starter Kits today and take the guesswork out of your next chapter.